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The first several years we we together we did what many couples do. We went out to bars and saw our favorite local bands, had drinks, played pool and so on. But after a while, couples tend to stop doing that.
Going out and having some beers turns into staying home on the weekends and having some beers and watching movies or our favorites shows on the DVR. You know the old song, "Everybody's working for the weekend" , except when you get a little older the weekends tend to be spent at home. I'm not saying that we don't go out to dinner and a movie every so often, but we tend to have drinks at home these days. It's safer and certainly cheaper.
The reason I decided to tell her that I had a pantyhose fetish is because I was sexually frustrated. Our relationship was going strong except for sex. We'd already been living together for a few years and I wanted more. I remember exactly when I told her. April 2, 2001.
Sometime in 2004 I started wearing panties openly.
It was sometime within the next year or so (after I started wearing panties) when she told me that she had found my bag with my high heels, leotards and bras. I was stunned and embarrassed. She didn't come down too hard and me, thankfully, but she wasn't exactly thrilled either.
In my stash I actually had a couple of her old bras that she had thrown away and I had taken out of the trash and kept. She ended up taking those back.
The bottom line is that she found out that I had high heels, leotards and bras. Honestly she didn't make a big deal out of it and it wasn't mentioned again. In my own mind, I had gotten away with something.
Now, at this stage of our relationship I was wearing panties in front of her and I had worn pantyhose, but she didn't really like seeing me in pantyhose. My big thrill at this point was wearing them and hoping that she wouldn't notice.
I decided to see if I could get away with wearing a leotard without her noticing. I'm always up on the weekends before her. So, one Saturday I decided to wear a leotard under a tee shirt. That's all I wore. A tee shirt over a leotard.
We were standing in the kitchen making coffee and I pulled her to me and gave her a hug. She wrapped her arms around me. She ran her hands up my back and onto my shoulders. One of her hands stopped on my shoulder and then suddenly and with a slight gasp, she pulled the strap up through my shirt and popped it on my shoulder. She didn't say anything, just a grunt. She didn't do it in a playful way at all. I was instantly shocked and embarrassed. As I said, it was done somewhat angrily and without any hint of playfulness at all.
Without a word I walked out of the kitchen and down the hall toward our bedroom where I quickly stripped off my shirt and then the leotard. I put my shirt back on and embarrassingly walked back into the room, fixed my coffee and didn't say a word. Neither did she.
Now back to the present day:
On the weekends we generally have some beers or mixed drinks and watch movies or shows on the DVR. She always goes to bed before I do. I must mention that she really isn't a touchy-feely type of person. She's not big into passionate hugs or long embraces. But, several months ago I noticed something. I noticed that on the weekends that before she went to bed, she would give me a hug and a kiss, but, she would run her hand along my shoulder and across my back, almost groping it.
This was unusual for her. This only happens on the weekends after shes been drinking. I started paying attention to her doing it and I believe I figured out what she's been doing.
Basically, I think she's been frisking me to see if I'm wearing a bra! I know that might sound crazy, but I truly believe that.
With that in mind and coupled with the fact that our sex life is practically non existent, I decided to "take it up a notch".
I decided to let her catch me. In a manner of speaking.
As I said, she goes to bed before I do every Friday and Saturday night. I usually take the opportunity to play dress up and on occasion to take some pictures. It's my alone time. Of course I have a few more beers before it's time call it a night. Then, a lot of times I'll just sleep on the couch. It's not a big deal.
Every Saturday and Sunday morning she gets up briefly and gets a drink of water and walks through the room, gets her shoes and goes out to get the paper. Then she crawls back into the bed. Then a little later, I get up.
How did I decide to "let her catch me"? I decided to leave some things out for her to see.
I guess it's a way of acting out and looking for some attention. Mostly, it's sexually frustration.
The photo below shows exactly what my wife walked in and saw on a Saturday morning back in January.
One pair of shoes is hers. The other pair is mine. Can you guess which is which?
The reason I decided to tell her that I had a pantyhose fetish is because I was sexually frustrated. Our relationship was going strong except for sex. We'd already been living together for a few years and I wanted more. I remember exactly when I told her. April 2, 2001.
Sometime in 2004 I started wearing panties openly.
It was sometime within the next year or so (after I started wearing panties) when she told me that she had found my bag with my high heels, leotards and bras. I was stunned and embarrassed. She didn't come down too hard and me, thankfully, but she wasn't exactly thrilled either.
In my stash I actually had a couple of her old bras that she had thrown away and I had taken out of the trash and kept. She ended up taking those back.
The bottom line is that she found out that I had high heels, leotards and bras. Honestly she didn't make a big deal out of it and it wasn't mentioned again. In my own mind, I had gotten away with something.
Now, at this stage of our relationship I was wearing panties in front of her and I had worn pantyhose, but she didn't really like seeing me in pantyhose. My big thrill at this point was wearing them and hoping that she wouldn't notice.
I decided to see if I could get away with wearing a leotard without her noticing. I'm always up on the weekends before her. So, one Saturday I decided to wear a leotard under a tee shirt. That's all I wore. A tee shirt over a leotard.
We were standing in the kitchen making coffee and I pulled her to me and gave her a hug. She wrapped her arms around me. She ran her hands up my back and onto my shoulders. One of her hands stopped on my shoulder and then suddenly and with a slight gasp, she pulled the strap up through my shirt and popped it on my shoulder. She didn't say anything, just a grunt. She didn't do it in a playful way at all. I was instantly shocked and embarrassed. As I said, it was done somewhat angrily and without any hint of playfulness at all.
Without a word I walked out of the kitchen and down the hall toward our bedroom where I quickly stripped off my shirt and then the leotard. I put my shirt back on and embarrassingly walked back into the room, fixed my coffee and didn't say a word. Neither did she.
Now back to the present day:
On the weekends we generally have some beers or mixed drinks and watch movies or shows on the DVR. She always goes to bed before I do. I must mention that she really isn't a touchy-feely type of person. She's not big into passionate hugs or long embraces. But, several months ago I noticed something. I noticed that on the weekends that before she went to bed, she would give me a hug and a kiss, but, she would run her hand along my shoulder and across my back, almost groping it.
This was unusual for her. This only happens on the weekends after shes been drinking. I started paying attention to her doing it and I believe I figured out what she's been doing.
Basically, I think she's been frisking me to see if I'm wearing a bra! I know that might sound crazy, but I truly believe that.
With that in mind and coupled with the fact that our sex life is practically non existent, I decided to "take it up a notch".
I decided to let her catch me. In a manner of speaking.
As I said, she goes to bed before I do every Friday and Saturday night. I usually take the opportunity to play dress up and on occasion to take some pictures. It's my alone time. Of course I have a few more beers before it's time call it a night. Then, a lot of times I'll just sleep on the couch. It's not a big deal.
Every Saturday and Sunday morning she gets up briefly and gets a drink of water and walks through the room, gets her shoes and goes out to get the paper. Then she crawls back into the bed. Then a little later, I get up.
How did I decide to "let her catch me"? I decided to leave some things out for her to see.
I guess it's a way of acting out and looking for some attention. Mostly, it's sexually frustration.
The photo below shows exactly what my wife walked in and saw on a Saturday morning back in January.
One pair of shoes is hers. The other pair is mine. Can you guess which is which?
This was the scene as I left it when I went to sleep. When I awoke, her shoes were not there. Only my pumps remained. There is absolutely no way that she didn't see them.
Do you know what she said about it? Absolutely nothing. Never mentioned it.
6 comments:
I would love to see more leotard and swimsuit pics of yours. It's been a long time ago.
When my first wife and I met, I was too embarrassed to tell her about my nylon fetish. She used to wear pantyhose to work every day, but would take them off as soon as she got home. I finally worked up the courage to tell her pantyhose turned me on and I wanted her to wear them at home/in bed and...she didn't care. She still took them off as soon as she got home. About twice a year she'd get tired of my begging and wear them for sex, but would get upset if I tried to stroke her feet or do anything with the nylons, and would strip them off as soon as I came. It was pretty unsatisfying and eventually I stopped begging and she stopped wearing them and we'd have really vanilla sex 3-4 times per year and eventually we divorced. Outside the bedroom we had a great relationship and I never understood why she would let such a little thing become such a big problem between us.
When I met my current wife, I didn't want to repeat the same experience so I told her about my pantyhose fetish and she was really into it! That lasted a few months, then she stopped, then she got hostile every time I brought it up. We went from having great sex every few days to boring sex 3-4 times per year. Again, great relationship outside the bedroom, and in the bedroom I've always taken care of her, but because she won't take care of my needs I end up angry and resentful, to the point where I can't even cum.
The only constant here is me, but I have no idea how to fix it. If I bring it up, she says I'm just complaining. I've suggested counselling a few times but she doesn't see anything is wrong.
So I console myself with Internet porn, where I can see women (and a few men) wearing pantyhose without having to beg, and without feeling guilty about my fetish. I am pretty angry I ended up in the exact same position even though I was upfront and honest. I'm sure many guys are in similar situations.
To the first comment above about leotard and swimsuit pictures. The truth is I don't quite look as good in them these days. Over the years I've added a few pounds. I can still wear them but I find myself having to suck in my gut before I take a picture. I can still "fake it", but I need to lose a few. I'll try. At the very least, maybe I can dig up a couple of never before seen pics from the archive and post them.
To the second comment above about admitting your nylon desires to two wives. A lot of us have done exactly what you have done. I'd like to hear a little more about your situation and I'm sure other readers would as well. About your first marriage, "How long into the relationship was it before you told her about your love of pantyhose and how long did the marriage last"? The same question for the second marriage except how long has the marriage lasted up until now.
Thanks for responding guys. I hope more of you do. We could all use a little diversion these days.
To M C, it appears that your wife approaches your love for pantyhose, bras, leotards, etc. with a passive-aggressive attitude. You mentioned once that she told you that she found your high heel shoes. I have a feeling that she knows about your secret stash and photo sessions on Friday and Saturday nights. You even said that she caught you taking photos. A long time ago, you said that she scratched your pantyhose clad legs. How did you react? Do you ever wonder why she isn't just upfront with you about how she feels about your fetish instead of being passive-aggressive? Would you stop wearing pantyhose in front of her if she told you that she didn't like it? Has she ever directly confronted you?
To the comment above: When she scratched me, it pissed me off and believe me, she knew it. As far as her directly confronting me, she has, but not unprovoked. For example: Many years ago on a weekend night, I had put on pantyhose and she hadn't noticed until she went to give me a goodnight kiss. As she leaned over me, she noticed, and said, slightly angrily, "Don't wear hose! Dude"!
On another occasion several years ago on a weekend night. I was wearing suntan pantyhose openly (in other words she knew) and I asked her if she would put on a pair. She responded sarcastically, "I'm NOT wearing pantyhose with my husband". When she said that, I walked out of the room, took my pantyhose off and slipped on a pair of black opaque tights. When I returned, she said something along the lines of, "Is that supposed to be better"? She did wear pantyhose that night, but I was disappointed that I was wearing tights as opposed to pantyhose.
Would I stop wearing pantyhose if she told me that she didn't like it? At this point the horse is already out of the barn.
So, probably not.
I think that you have not to renounce to your true interior life for your love. You are 52 and you worked many many years to find your path. If she doesn’t accept .. maybe that she doesn’t love you. She can say that she doesn’t agree but woman clothes are part of you. You are not killing anyone and not betray her ..
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